Sunday, August 23, 2015

Being Wonder Woman means understanding your limitations....

Good afternoon ladies and gentlemen. has been a long time since I have posted.  I am neglecting my sorry.  It's been an interesting summer.  Since I last posted, I did have a wonderful trip to Australia with the gorge redhead (well, now it is blue).  Such an amazing trip, we went to the West Coast of Australia, did "some" wine tasting (read as A LOT), saw awesome wildlife, stayed in a tent on the beach, I swam with whale sharks and got to see Quolls and Quokkas.  In life, you should count yourself lucky if you can find ONE person you can travel with internationally.  I am lucky enough to have more than one...Thanks Melis and Mandi (and of course, my parents).  I also did a quick trip to Jamaica to see my friends Steve and Amy get married, PLUS I did get my scuba diving certification.  Next trip will hopefully be to New Zealand and/or Africa with my parents.  We will see how the next 6 months go.

So this past week, I was in the salon (yep, I am no longer a redhead, went back to being dark and exotic).  And I was chatting to my AWESOME stylist (she also does my nails).  And she was telling me a story about how she was at the park the other day and there was a stay at home mom there.  Mar and this lady were chatting and the mom was carrying on about how she can't get anything done during the day while she is home with her daughter, no cleaning, no cooking, etc.  And the mom looked at Mar and said how many kids, do you have?  Mar answers...four.  The mom says and you work?  Mar says yes.  And the mom stopped talking.  Now, I am not saying that Mar is more amazing than the stay at home mom.  But I think it is time that as women we start to recognize we all have limitations.  While Mar could be JUST fine working a full time job and having 4 kids, the other mom might only be able to handle one.  And guess what?  That is OK.

It got me to thinking about myself.  And as much as I don't want to admit it, I have limitations as well.  (I know, you are all surprised).  I think you all know how much I love my job.  And generally speaking, I have been one of the top sales people for the last two years running.  So this year, when the opportunity came up to travel to the Maldives and then about 6 weeks later travel to Australia, I did it.  I figured I was good at sales, so it wouldn't matter that I was going to gone for like 3+ months.  Well some things changed at work and guess what, it did matter that I was gone for that long, as I have struggled this year with my sales.  And while it stinks for me financially, it will be OK.  And things are getting better.  SO here is how I take it, it is a lesson learned, now I know how long I can and can't be gone from work.

So here is my message out there for all of the ladies!  While society, media and facebook MIGHT demand that you are super woman, you are all allowed to be super woman in your own way.  It is classy for you to understand what you are able to do and what you aren't.  I know you all read the posts from women about how amazing their life is with their kids, their husband, their volunteer work, their job, their dog....etc, etc.  Did you ever think maybe those women that are posting all of that are trying to convince themselves as opposed to everyone else?

So ladies seriously, you are all super women in your own way.  And it is better to be really good at a few things, rather than being mediocre at a lot of things that you don't care about.  So take stock, and be your own personal super woman (and your family).  And it might be important for you to be available for your children so you have work part time or an administrative type of job that gets you home early, you know what, that is OK...don't let other moms shame you for that.  OR you might be the type of mom that needs to be at a 40-50+ hours a week for financial reasons or other and you might also volunteer and be a Girl Scout leader, that is OK too.

So ladies seriously, assess your life and do what makes sense for you and your family.  And that is the classy way to go.

.....keep your chin, heels and standards high....