Twerking? Really ladies?

Hello ladies and gentlemen!  Hope all is well with all of you.  School is getting back in the swing and all of the little people are heading back.  And of course, the big little people as well are heading back to college.

So this week, one of my friend's husbands wanted to know my opinion of Miley's performance on the VMAs, which of course, is what everyone is talking about, right?  Honestly, ladies and gentlemen, I haven't watched, I am sure I would be disappointed.  Apparently, grinding is now twerking...who knew?

So I guess my statement or opinion on this whole thing is that I think it is sad that our young women in this world think that being trashy and acting inappropriately makes you sexy.  Not sure that Miley is overly worried about that...as everyone is talking about her and she has a new album coming out.  But I am talking mostly about our young ladies, college age to 30s.  These ladies think that girls gone wild, getting crazy drunk and acting generally trashy makes them sexy and makes men want to talk to them.  Yes, men talk to them, but not for the right reasons.

Ladies, being sexy is all about your attitude, not about how trashy you can be.  Ask a man who he thinks is sexy and he will tell you people like Eva Mendes.  Does she act trashy?  Nope, she is a confident, beautiful woman, who dresses appropriately, doesn't have her bootie or boobies out, and she acts appropriately.  Ladies seriously, acting trashy attracts the wrong type of people to you.  Love yourself and dress appropriately and the right people will think you are sexy.

It makes me sad that our young ladies are not confident enough in themselves in this day and age.  Public service announcement WARNING:  ladies and gentlemen seriously, if you know a young lady who acts inappropriately and dresses trashy, perhaps coaching that young lady into being proud of who she is will help you to be the change agent she needs.  Let's tell our young ladies that they are OK just the way they are.  :)

Well, that's all I have today ladies and gentlemen seriously.  I am happy to say I am getting ready to travel again....to Tahiti this time in October.  Super fun part of my job.  My sister and brother in law are heading here over the weekend bringing my AWESOME niece and nephew to visit Chicago.  And my FAB parents are heading here in September as well.  So fun things coming up for SMB.

Continue to enjoy your summer!  Keep it classy!

...Keep your chin, heels and standards high....
BONSOIR, CHEERS and CIAO BELLAS!

Would you go under the knife?

Hello ladies and gentlemen.  Hope you are all having a wonderful, classy summer.  The other day a friend shared a story with me about someone he knew that had had some plastic surgery.  And based on the story, the person wasn't forthcoming about the surgery, it got me thinking about the decision to have plastic surgery.

Let's face it, the majority of people receiving plastic surgery in this world are American women.  I am not the type of person that makes a judgment on someone who has surgery as it is a very personal decision.  Heck, I would love to suck out some of the fat out of my bootie and put it in my chest, BUT ALAS, I would prefer to spend the money on shoes or handbags.  I have another friend who lost over 100 pounds and after having kept the weight off for 5+ years, she decided to have the surgery to have the extra skin removed.  And the thing that I loved about her decision was that the decision was for her ONLY.  She was smart about it, made sure she could keep the weight off, she had been in counseling....and let me tell you, she looked FAB!

And so I guess my point, ladies seriously (and even you gentlemen), if you decide to have some type of surgery, make sure the decision is for you and not for what someone else wants.  Many women choose to have their breasts enhanced, which is fine, but make sure that you want those bodacious ta-tas for you and not for your husband, boyfriend (girlfriend), etc (of course, they will get the benefits).  The sad story is that some women choose to get surgery in order to get more attention from men (which usually does happen), but I would sure love for those same ladies to get attention from men because they are AWESOME and happen to have great boobs.

And one last thing, if you do decide to get surgery, OWN IT!  Don't be embarrassed that you have bigger boobs/smaller tummy/smaller bootie/a different nose, heck, you paid for them.  BE PROUD!  And if the doctor did a good job....all the better.

So ladies and gentlemen seriously, my underlying message here is that it is classy to have positive body image, no matter, if it is natural or not.  Be proud of how you look.  And if you don't like how you look, do something about it.  Whether, it means diet, exercise or surgery, please be healthy about how you do.

Case in point, I have gained almost 20 pounds of "relationship" weight, thanks RCH Jr!  And it was time to do something about it, so I went back on my trusty Isagenix and I am down about 12 pounds in a 5 weeks.  Just about 8 left to go.  YAY.

Enjoy the rest of the summer.  Keep it classy!

BONSOIR, CHEERS AND CIAO BELLAS!

Celebrate the Women in your Life

G'day ladies and gentlemen...ah, the Aussies in my office are wearing off on me!  Happy summer to everyone.  Hope you are all keeping it classy.  So I am reminded that today is National Girlfriends Day, and what better way to be classy than to remind the girlfriends in your life how special they are.  One of the things that we talk about a lot at dear ol' Gamma Phi Beta is the idea of gracious living.  This includes manners but also includes sending out positive messages to the women and men in your life that do something special for you.  And that special something could simply be .... being your in life.  So many times, we, as women spend time cutting each other down and we don't do a good enough job of supporting one another.  So, I am here telling you to take the time to shoot a text message if you want to remind people that they are special.  Trust me, not only will it make the other person feel great but you will as well.

Gentlemen, this includes you as well.  When was the last time you thanked your Mom or your Sister for being fabulous...or your wife or your girlfriend for that matter.  DO IT, they will probably be floored and honored.

Can you tell that I have been doing a lot of self reflecting lately?  I am finding that sometimes when your relationships are not giving you what you want, you need to reflect on what you are sending out there.  The energy that you put out is many times reflected back at you.  So if things are not going right, perhaps it is time to evaluate yourself first.

BOY, I am philosophical today, aren't I?  Well, short and sweet today.  Enjoy the balance of your summer.

BONSOIR, CHEERS and CIAO BELLAS!