Sunday, September 20, 2015

Life is all about choices....

Good morning ladies and gentlemen seriously!  Seems that fall is starting around Chicago and boy has it been beautiful outside the last few weeks.  It kind of makes up for the fact that I was supposed to be in Africa right now on vacation.  BUT never fear, the trip has been re-scheduled for next year.  And I am now in the process of planning my trip to Fiji for April.

So in the last few weeks I have been thinking about choices in life.  And more specifically, life choices that we all make...having kids, being single, getting married, getting a divorce, living in the city, living the burbs, our job, etc.  And there seems to be some judgey judgey going on with people in regards to life choices.  Let's be clear, we do live in America and women and men are generally free to make their own choices and decisions.  I think it is fair to assume that each person's or family's decisions are made on what it is believed to be best for the person or the family.  If you are a person that chooses to get married, live in the suburbs, have a child and be a stay at home parent, I don't judge.  It would not be my choice, but that doesn't matter, we all need to respect each other.

And I guess the place were I start to get upset and things turn NOT classy is when people assume that their life is more fulfilled or better than someone else's based on their choices.  For example, please don't assume that your life is more fulfilled than mine because you have a husband and a child.  I am quite fulfilled and happy with my single dog parent life in the city.  Would I like to have a date...sure!  but that doesn't mean I am not fulfilled.

So ladies and gentlemen seriously, can we all just be classy and respect one another's choices?  Don't try to change me, don't try to tell me, I will meet someone soon and then I will want to have children.  And on the other side of things, if a couple is married and chooses not to have children, that is their choice, you don't need to try to convince them that they will want children.  OR if a family chooses to live in the city and have their kids go to school in the city, don't try to convince them their life would be better in the suburbs.  These are all choices, respect them and move on.

On a side note, apparently the dating gods read my last blog post and I am happy to say that a very lovely, normal adult man did ask me on a date.  I met him online on Thursday and we went out yesterday.  We had a great time.  So hopefully more to come on that.

Keep your heels, chin and standards high

1 comment:

  1. Jzzrgrl, your words made me think about my own life. I mean where I am, what I'm doing and what I want. You really have the power to made people influenced. I like your insight and your view about life but everyone having their own choices to make their life full of fun. Well, making trips is a very good way to cheer up your mood but the company should be a good one and everything need to be perfect. You may go for Ventura Airport Shuttle for a good beginning of your journey. Keep sharing all about your trips.