Thursday, September 12, 2013

THINK Before you Speak!

Hello ladies and gentlemen.  Happy September.  I trust that you are all enjoying being in the full swing of football season (whether you like football on Saturday or personally, I like football on Saturday, Go Big Red).  And that you are having fun, dressing appropriately and keeping it classy.

So this week, a sorority sister of mine posted a link about things not to say to a childfree woman (thanks Melanie).  And it got me to thinking about what people say to other people about children.  Ladies and gentlemen seriously, children are a VERY personal choice and it is not our place to pass judgment on anyone regarding those choices.  For example...

If you are a couple or a woman that has no children, that is your choice.  Perhaps medically you are not able to have children and have decided that adoption or surrogacy is not for you.  OR you just don't want them.  Having someone say things to you like when are you having children is probably pretty insensitive or none of their business.

If you are a married couple with adopted children or a single parent with adopted children (or a gay couple that can't be called married (that is a topic for another blog post) with adopted children) is NOT ok for people to say why don't you just have kids of your own.  Really?  what makes the adopted children not their OWN.  Crazy I know.

If you are a couple or a single woman who chooses to use fertility treatments to have children, that is your choice.  And it is simply NOT OK for people say things like I don't understand why you don't try harder.  GEEZ.

Ladies and gentlemen seriously, no matter what your opinion or religious belief is regarding children, having them, adopting them or not having them, it NOT classy for you to say RUDE things to them or be insensitive.  It is NONE of your business.  Support your friends and family in whatever decision they make, as it was the right one for them.  So the bottom line is watch what you say.

Everything is status quo here with JZZRGRL...still teaching class, loving my job, living with RCH Jr, volunteering for Gamma Phi Beta.  My awesome parents are coming into town at the end of September.  And I think I told you all this, I am heading to Tahiti in October.

That's all for today.  ....keep your chin, standards and heels high...


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