Another Valentine's Day is OVER!

Well, ladies, did you survive? Isn't it amazing how a stoopid holiday can make you crazy? So after surviving our Anti-Valentine's Day pub crawl, I have a few observations from this holiday. First, let me say, LADIES, nice work on Saturday night. I didn't find too many ladies seriously don'ts in all 4 bars I was in. Well, other than the chick was throwing up in the bar bathroom at 8 PM in the evening. Seemed a bit early to be doing that (and a bit disgusting to ever do it). Life is a marathon not a sprint! Second, let me give a shout out to the ladies and gentlemen that participated in our pub crawl and once again kept it classy. We had a great time, were out for like 7 hours, no one was inappropriate or obnoxious and not a single one passed out or threw up. And safety first, everyone took cabs and the suburbanites stayed my condo. All in all, a great night!

So, let's discuss this holiday...Valentine's Day. Speaking from someone who was broken up with on V day last year, it is not my favorite holiday. On a side note, I bought him an iPOD as a V Day gift last year, so I sold it on eBay this year! I started to think about why men get so weird on and around Valentine's Day. In fact, I saw Valentine's Day the movie this past weekend (cute movie, yes predictable and bit sappy, but hey...oh I am SOOOO Jessica Biel in that film) but anyway, Jamie Foxx said in the movie that he had do downplay his "playerness" from January to St. Patrick's Day so that he wasn't required to spend a lot of money on V Day. So one of my guy friends offered up the opinion that there is a lot of pressure put on men to do the right thing for Valentine's Day. He has to be romantic...So much thought goes into the card, and the gift and dinner, etc. And if you have only been dating for a few months, he has to plan something that isn't too suggestive or is just enough. And if you have been dating for a while, there is possibly the pressure of an engagement ring. It just seems silly. When did it all become such a game?

Although I feel like a broken record because I say this all the time, but ladies and gentlemen seriously, the important people in your life should feel loved everyday of the year, it shouldn't require some big romantic gesture to make them feel loved. And ladies, give your guy a break, don't expect him to drop $1000 on Valentine's Day for dinner ($300), flowers ($100), candy ($100) and a gift...And maybe if you want, next year, tell him that you are in charge of the plans for the holiday. Give him a break! And you know I don't give you gentlemen a break very often, so take it now!

Ladies seriously, don't put a lot of stock in a silly holiday, if you know that your man loves you, don't expect extra gifts and flowers on February 14th, you should honestly feel very blessed because you know he loves you. Not everyone gets something like that! HECK, I have been divorced for almost 10 years and I have had EXACTLY three boyfriends in that time, one that lasted 2 1/2 years, one that lasted 6 months and one that lasted 6 weeks. I would love to know that I had a man that loved me! ;) Still waiting for Jason Statham to realize I am available.

Cheers and CIAO BELLAS!