Monday, August 24, 2009

If you are going to lie, at least be good at it.

A quote today from one of my girlfriends. Of course, it is in reference to a guy. She had a date scheduled with a guy who did not call or TXT and stood her up. He contacted her later in the day and said he was really sorry, his phone was broken and he wouldn't have a new one for another week, but he still really wanted to get together. Then miraculously today his mobile phone appeared available on mobile IM....HUM, I wonder how that phone got fixed SO QUICKLY?? HEY MORON, if you are to pretend that your phone is broken, don't log into IM.

If you remember my blog post about my Mr. Big. He was the KING of LIES about why we couldn't get together, can't tell you how many times he made plans with me and then backed out at the last minute with every single possible, thinkable lie...his phone was broken at least once or twice, his mom needed something, his sister was having a crisis, his kid was sick..blah, blah, blah. I mean, I can't imagine how many acts of god happened for us not to be able to get together. I have to give him credit for coming up with a different lie every time, but please!

So here's the thing gentlemen seriously, how hard is it to tell the truth (well, I know men, and actually it is kind of hard for them, but really?) My phone is broken...if you don't want to go out with us, don't make the plans, period. Really, we can handle it, I mean, we weren't ordering wedding invitations or anything based on a date. And honestly having been in the dating world for way too long (and many of us have), we get it, if you don't want to go out with us, that is cool, don't take it as a character flaw. Just isn't right!

And ladies seriously, same thing to you. If you aren't interested in a guy, don't lie to him or keep going out with him for that matter. A few years ago, when I was on eHarmony, I went out with a guy like 3-4 times and I knew that I wasn't feeling it, but I really wanted to. I mean, on paper, he was really good for me, but the chemistry was NIL. He finally got the hint when I told him I don't golf and stopped calling (he wanted to golf in FEBRUARY....HUH? well the driving range, whatev). Hey, the dating world sucks and it is hard and frustrating, so why make it worse by lying to each other? Don't say, you are going to call, if you have no intention of calling. Don't make a date, if you have no intention of keeping it. Remember, the Friends episode where Chandler kept asking Rachel's boss out even though he didn't like her....Great show.

Anyway, I SUCK at lying so I try to never do it, cuz I always get caught, just ask my mom. Good advice for both men and women, a little honesty and truth is very refreshing!

Beautiful ladies, have a good week. Cheers and CIAO BELLAS!

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